This post is for Christians. At least, those who select that little radio button on those “Which celebrity should you have a beer with?” quizzes.
There’s a familiar sentiment echoed by many outward religious folks that goes “Let go, and let God.” I presume you’re familiar, yes? Good, then let’s carry on.
It’s a reasonable enough statement. Suggesting that as imperfect people we ought to stop working so hard to control every facet in our lives. I mean, we’re failing anyway right? Instead, we told to let God, The Big Cheese, The Man Upstairs; whatever you call him, take control of our existence. At this moment, all the worry in your heart and life will melt like the polar ice caps (just kidding, they’re not melting,) they say.
Isn’t that just blissful?
Yes, I reckon it is, in some way, a terrific idea. You should allow yourself to trust a bit more in His grand plan for your life. You should consider that as a loving Father, he hurts when you hurt. He wants your pain and suffering to make like the dodo (their extinction was legitimate after all.) So, if let go of the pain we’re feeling and get our minds and hearts right, things will improve just like that. Perhaps the advantage of letting go is that when you know, no matter what, things are just not going to go your way, you’re still going to be OK. No matter what you do, some days are just going to leave you feeling like screaming and/or punching an inanimate object.
So yes! Let go and by all means, let God.
This is all assuming of course that you believe God’s preference for your life is complete and utter apathy. If you think disregard towards the plight you’ve no doubt created for yourself is God’s preference, you’re all set. It’s my belief (and I presume I’m correct, as it’s my post so I control the narrative, ) that God would prefer to work hand-in-hand with us. We have to 1) accept our role in our mistakes and free ourselves in our attempts to blame others, and 2) make supplication to God for His help. I think you’ll find there’s comfort in knowing that we are not capable of getting by on our own.
So, it’s not “Let go and let God.” It’s “Shut up and understand you suck sometimes and you need God’s help – along with your own willingness to change – to make a better life for you and the people that you love.” I realize that’s not quite as warm and fuzzy as the idea that you can completely give away your troubles to someone else. It’d be nice to have God absolve of your responsibilities, but I don’t think that’s how it works. What lesson would learn and how would that strengthen us as people later? That’s life, Cupcake, sometimes we’re the problem.
There are many people, myself included, that think we’re infallible. Of course, that’s ignoring the fact that every shred of evidence suggeststhe contrary. We hide ourselves from the people who love us because we’re afraid they’ll not play along with our charade. You know the charade, right? It’s that “I’m almost perfect and nothing is wrong in my life,” charade. We’ve all played that game at one point or another.
Rather than turning to the people who can help us, along with God, we make ourselves victims to basic acquaintances. People who have no right knowing half of the garbage we make them privy to, because we’re only making them privy to half of the garbage! We don’t provide the whole story because doing so would only underscore the real problem. What problem? That we suck sometimes. That we can’t do everything on our own. That we need the support of something greater than our understanding.
My advice? Yes, go ahead, let go and let God. But also, grab on tighter to the people that are important to you. Hold them as close as you can and let them know who you are, faults and all. It’s only when we “let go” of the idea that we’re blameless can we help the people we love the most (not yourself either, other people.)
Maybe it will give them an insight into you they hadn’t had before. Maybe your willingness to ask for help opens up dialogue with someone you’ve been desperate to. Maybe that person will return that vulnerability. Maybe they won’t. At least then you’ll know you’ve done your part. God can do the rest.